A wedding takes months, sometimes years, to plan, and a lot of engaged couples spends so much time, energy and money to have their dream wedding. After all, it’s a one-of-a-kind experience for the people involved
In the ideal setting, everyone in the wedding would be celebrating happily with the soon-to-be-married couple. Unfortunately, sometimes, stress, strained relationships, family tensions, and a host of other issues can get in the way of having the perfect wedding. If you want to have a happy, peaceful wedding, consider these dos and don’ts to avoid any kind of wedding drama on your and your partner’s special day.
Do Communicate with Your Partner
Planning a wedding is a huge responsibility. You and your partner can easily get stressed and exhausted with all the preparations, expectations, and emotions leading up to the date. During this time, open and regular communication should be maintained even more religiously.
Lots of things can change over the planning period. You want to make sure that you both want the same things for your wedding and your relationship. If any one of you experiences wedding jitters, you can talk it out calmly and figure out your next step together.
Communication shouldn’t just be with you and your partner. Keep your family, friends, and guests in the loop on how the wedding planning is going. This will help them be better prepared when the day comes. Moreover, a lot of wedding drama can be avoided if you’re upfront about what you want and don’t want for your wedding.
Don’t Brush Off Your Concerns
If you’re having second thoughts or worries about your wedding, don’t stubbornly ignore them and force yourself to go on. Chances are, there are perfectly reasonable explanations as to why you’re having these thoughts. It’s best to get them all out before your wedding day.
Whether it’s apprehensions about your relationship or the wedding itself, you should talk about it with your partner or with someone your trust. Getting married is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make in your life, and it’s understandable to have anxieties over certain things.
If your concerns are centered more on the wedding planning, consult your wedding planner to iron out the kinks, and talk to your partner to make sure you’re on the same page.
Do Prepare for the Wedding Thoroughly
Sometimes, drama can be best avoided by accounting for certain things—your families, for example. Most parents and siblings can’t help but get involved in their family member’s wedding. This can be a boon, but it can also be a bane when both families have different ideas about how the wedding should be.
It’s your own wedding, and you and your partner should have the last say. However, a wedding is also a union of two families, not just two people, so you should also give your parents and siblings some face. Most of the time, having a nice, long talk with both families (separately and together) can help you set boundaries, especially with the wedding budget, and resolve certain issues before they crop up.
Talking with both families can also help ensure that you only invite those who are genuinely happy for you and your partner, as well as create the optimum seating arrangement for a drama-free wedding party.
Once your families are on board, you’ll feel lesser pressure and stress in planning the rest of the wedding. You can finally focus on working out the details, including choosing the wedding entourage, theme, venue, and bridal and groom attire.
Don’t Take on Too Many Things on Your Plate
Even experienced wedding planners will have challenges in planning their own wedding, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself and take on a lot of things all at once. Your partner, family, and friends will willingly help you. And you wedding planner certainly knows what they’re doing, so you put more trust in them.
You don’t have to be hands-on in every aspect of wedding planning. Prioritize the things that matter most to you and your partner. Learn to ask for help and delegate some tasks that don’t require your full attention. You can always check in on them to make sure everything’s according to what you want.
Do Enjoy Every Aspect of Your Wedding
Because every wedding is once-in-a-lifetime experience for every couple, there’s a lot of emphasis on having the perfect wedding day, and this can cause significant pressure and stress on the couple. Remember that, when it comes to your wedding, what matters is what’s perfect for you both and not what everyone else thinks is perfect.
That being said, you don’t have to hire a renowned wedding planner, choose the best wedding venue, or get the most elegant wedding attires. And you don’t always have to make every aspect of your wedding a standout. Stick with what makes you happy and what you think the wisest choice for your wedding and relationship is.
Don’t Put Too Much Weight on Having the Perfect Wedding
Some couples agonize over and spend so much on organizing the perfect event that they forget what matters most—enjoying their wedding. Stop dwelling too much on the small details. Your guests won’t mind if you don’t serve fine wine during your wedding. Neither will your bridesmaids and groomsmen mind if they receive inexpensive thank-you gifts for all their help and support.
When you and your partner are happy with your choices, your family, friends, and guests will naturally be happy too. After all, they are there to support you.
Wedding Party – Final Word
No one wants their wedding day because of drama, whether caused by themselves or by others. Stress and exhaustion from preparing the big day can cause emotions to run high and spark drama. Couples should keep open and regular communication during these stressful times to avoid fights and misunderstandings. And it’s also important to be honest with families and friends to avoid unnecessary drama later on.
While you have to compromise and consider other people outside your relationship, the wedding is ultimately between you and your partner. So you have the right to choose what’s best for you both, whether it means having a nontraditional ceremony or uninviting problematic guests.